Friendships

so just a general post about friendships. Nothing exciting at all :)

Obviously friendships are all different with each person you know. Some closer than others. When though, do you decide that a not so close friendship is just better off as you two being acquaintances? Some friendships can start off really close, but as time goes on, maybe one or both peoples life situations change, and you grow apart, or you find out what that persons true personality is.

One thing that I have learned from past friendships is that the complain train can really drag down a friendship. In the past I've talked to friends who constantly complain and tell them that it's not fun to be around, but when it doesn't stop, then the friendship no longer is enjoyable and I have walked away. It sucks to do, but I'm not going to brought down by someones negativity just to be able to call them my friend. Obviously the occasional complaint is just fine, but it doesn't need to happen every time you open your mouth.

Friendships can happen in the least likely of places, with people you never thought you would be close to. I love when this happens! Even if you don't have a bunch of really close friends, it's nice to have a handful that you know you can call, and that they would genuinely like to hang out with you. I have had experience with people who I thought were my friend, but then as time goes on, I seem to find out things about them that aren't such good qualities, like if you don't like someone, don't pretend to be their friend if you're just going to turn around and talk smack about them as soon as they are out of ear shot. That absolutely drives me nuts, and I have recently found out that one of my so called friends is exactly like that.

As I get older, I realize that the number of friends I have isn't important. What I now look for in a friendship is does the person have the same values as me, are they honest, are they true, or do they put on a fake persona so that they get more people to like them? I'm not interested in being friends with fake people. It is my opinion that if you have to put on a show in order to get people to like you, then you must not be a very decent person yourself. The quality of the persons character is a lot more important than how many friends you can get to like you.